One Brain

I normally don't talk about my relationship with my husband, because I seem to come off bitchy. But after reading MommaSunshine and Canadian Bald Guy's posts this morning, and twittering with them that it was NOT planned, it reminded me of a few things in my relationship that I am very proud of and that make me very happy.

First off is the One Brain situation. MommaSunshine and Canadian Bald Guy did not PLAN on writing about the same thing, it just kinda of happened to them. They got that One Brain connection going on.

Scott will sometimes do something for me that I never even said out loud. Then he'll say "Didn't you just ask me to do that?" And my answer usually is "I was thinking it... " I can't tell you how many times that has happened to both of us.

Alot of times, neither of us even finishes our sentences because we know what the end is before the other one even gets to it. One Brain.

This One Brain phenomena is part of why we love each other so much.

The other thing I'm going to bring up is trust and knowledge, this really has nothing to do with One Brain, but it's a big reason I broke my "I'll never get married" stand and got married.

Scott & I tell each other EVERYTHING. We have no secrets. We don't hide stuff. That's not us. Oh, we've tried to tell each other a lie or two, and it just doesn't work, we CAN'T lie to each other! It's strange. Hasn't happened in a long long time, because we would bust each other immediately. When that happened, we both knew there is no point. Just be honest.

It's an amazing concept. And works wonders. Go figure. Honesty.

Scott was helping a friend with some work at his house on Sunday and Monday. We'll call the friend Fred (name changed). Fred has a girlfriend he's been with a long time, and they have 2 children together.

While Scott was over at Fred's on Monday, I texted him asking how his day was going. He texted me back what was going on. Fred's Gfriend said to him "Are you texting her a picture of where you are so she believes you?" Scott said "No, she knows where I am." Gfriend says "Oh, I never believe Fred when he tells me where he's going or what he's doing." Scott was pretty shocked. He told her flat out that neither of us have any worry about that type of thing. It isn't an issue.

Then she said "Are you going to send her a text telling her your girlfriend is standing 3 feet away holding your beer?"

He flat out said "uh, no.. "

I never worry or honestly care where he goes or what he does. I know that no matter what, he's not going to lie to me and he'll always come home. Because I am secure that he loves me and would never do anything to hurt me intentionally.

He came home and told me all that. I just laughed and sat there amazed thinking "How can you be in a serious relationship with someone you just don't trust?" I don't get it.

I told him if he had texted about his girlfriend holding a beer I would have texted back "Is she wearing a bikini? If so send pictures." Cause that's how I am.


2nd Situation that makes me glad I trust my husband, and that we are 100% honest with each other... We know these 2 people, I'll call them Ricky & Lucy. They are a very nice couple and we enjoy their company. Well, I happen to know about Ricky's lets say, history. I know things he's done and not done in the past.

One day I was having a conversation with Lucy and I mentioned something that had occurred in the past to Ricky. She looked at me like I was a two headed freak with a penis coming out of my forehead.

She had no clue.

Turns out she HAS no clue at all about what he did. (nothing really bad - lets just lay that out there now). And that he hides a ton of shit from her now.

Can you say my mouth flew shut faster then a shutter door in a hurricane? And I have kept it shut since.

Again, I am very thankful that Scott & I are 100% honest with each other...

Being involved with another person is never easy. It takes patience, love, honesty, and forgiveness. I'm not going to sit here and say Scott and I are all fairy tale happy. We're happy, but like everyone else, we have our moments. Our fights. Days where we just want to be left alone. Days where we love each other, but don't really like each other. It happens to everyone.

But I just can't imagine a relationship where trust and honesty are issues. Why bother then?

*** And don't forget about being a fairy or sending me your pants ***