Well, it finally happened to me.. A family member 'found' my blog, read a post and got majorly offended by something I said.
I spent this past weekend thinking long and hard what to do with this blog. Should I shut it down? Should I start removing posts that MIGHT possibly offend people? Should I move my blog somewhere else and re-name it?
I decided NO to all of those things. Why? Because while my family may think I am very selfish because of reading this, they're right. If you come here, yes, I am selfish. Because this is MY BLOG and where I go to talk about what is going on with me. You will only read what I want you to. You will only read what I want to write. You will see me as selfish because of these things. I come here to 'talk' about these things because this is where I can choose the topic.
This blog is a small portion of my life. It does not cover everything that goes on, only some things. It does not spill every tiny detail of every single thing, only some things. And if that makes me selfish, so be it.
I am very sorry for offending who I did with what I wrote, that was never my intent, and the post has been removed per request, and I will never blog about that specific issue ever again. The last thing I would ever want to do is hurt someone in my family, but they don't see it that way.
Per the email attack I received, "YOU are Nasty. You are filled with evil and hatred. You have no conscience nor do you care about how hurtful your words can be. It’s all about you and your selfish disgusting life. "
That person doesn't even know me and has never liked me, and was so off base in the accusations that it was seriously ridiculous, hurtful and just wrong. I immediately attacked back.
Now that I will be living on the defensive, it's hard to say what will come of MY space. What will I write about? I will hear those words above echo in my head every single time I sit down to write something. I will remember the pain and hurt that I caused and because I am so selfish, will think twice, or a dozen times before I hit the post button.
I meant no harm, but that's not what people saw, they saw one word in a post and went nuts. People that don't know me, don't care to know me and tell me what they think about me, based on one post a year and a half ago.
BUT, it's over. The post is gone, but the hurt isn't. Hopefully in time, all will heal and this will be forgiven and forgotten.
I'll have to wait and see. One can only hope.
Monday, April 27, 2009
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15 gimme your words here:
That's idiotic - most of us don't even KNOW your damn family, and therefore, have no picture or person to attach it to. Besides - you are entitled to your opinion just as much as THEY are entitled to their shitty opinion of you. If they want, they can start their own damn blog and bitch about you. I mean, WTH? You go by Bubblewench, for craps' sake!
I'd have left the post up - but I am hard core like that.
Preach on Sybil!
Seriously, it's YOUR blog. If someone so judgmental and spiteful finds it offensive s/he he can sod off and create a blog to bash whoever s/he wants on it.
Write what you want, that's the point of blogging. I understand where you're coming from (anytime I get depressed and mention it on my blog my future MIL and SIL call my future husband and drama ensues. I hate it, but at the same time I have every right to say I feel down on my blog.
And so do you.
I must clarify - I was NOT bashing anyone in my post (that has been removed)... I used a term that was taken offensively.. that term was Beotches.
It was removed because someone asked me nicely to do so. NOT the same someone who attacked me.
Oh man, that really sucks. I've had the same kind of thing happen, and had the same reaction you did, but was ultimately happier to just keep on doing what I wanted. I'm sorry that person chose to do the very thing they were accusing you of, using hateful angry words, to tell you how they felt. You just keep doing what you're doing, fuck the naysayers.
Aunt Tuna knows I blog. I believe she has now chosen not to read it....
this is YOUR space. Tell the others to bite you.
Been there, done that, bought the T-shirt. I decided to leave my blog up because the people that were crying and whining about it WOULD NOT be allowed to dictate how I felt, or what I said about how I felt. I did, however, remove the post that hurt their widdle feelies, despite the fact that no one had any idea who I was talking about (except the people I was talking about). And then, not too long ago, my eldest brother found my blog and got HIS feelings hurt about what I'd written about HIM. That post I left up, because my brother and I don't talk anymore.
In the final analysis, this IS your space. These ARE your feelings. Anyone trying to take that away from you is the selfish one.
I constantly worry that my blog will be discovered. It does taint what I write sometimes. But for someone to just attack you only shows THEIR true colors. We're all adults here (or should be).
that really sucks but I hope you continue to use this space as a place to be yourself and vent/discuss anything you need to.
So sorry gorgeous. I agree with all the above. This is your space. You haven't asked anyone to read it, and you shouldn't have to apologise for its contents.
Taking the post down should be more than enough to mollify them, and if not, I'd write another about forgiveness and/or their right NOT to read.
I've offended a loved one by mistake once and I was mortified so you need to do what's right for you too, but I just don't want you to feel forced or controlled here. This blog is your baby. Hugs.
That sucks. Hmm, I so eloquent tonight.
Back to my favourite topic of myself, I am keeping some of my real opinions about China and stuff under wraps until I leave (don't want to do anything that could jeapordize my job) and it can be so frustrating not be able to write about what you want to.
Chin up!
Okay ... I dont know who was offended or why but I do know YOU and this is YOUR blog... its your right to say what you want, when you want, HOW you want ...
And I also know you well enough to know you didnt intend that to hurt whoever.. hell if you had intended to hurt them, I think you'd have used a bigger badder meaner word than 'beotches'
So .. if this person reads this comment may I say to them BITE ME, Beotch
Sounds like someone who is not very self aware (or aware) is putting all their bad feelings on you! Don;t worry too much about it.
You are sincere and don;t intend ill. if that person doesn;t know that, they don;t know you. It's all about them. How boring.YOU are anything but and please keep posting!
Aloha
When someone enters you "inner sanctum" they get what they get.
It is your place,your time,and your words. They could be considered an uninvited visitor, if they don't like what they read, they can just leave and not come back. Kinda like the on/off button for that retched TV. You control your whole world by pushing that one button.
We have all produced "e-mail faux pas"
I sent something to my sister one day when I was upset. I accidentally cc my Dad. OMG, Did I owe everybody an explanation. My Dad, being the wonderful person he is, said it was just between him and me, not to worry about it. I think we both learned from it.
Forget the "W"itch. She never has been worth the trouble, as long as you a square with the important people you are good.
Rest assured that time wounds all heels.
Illegitimati non carborundum.
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